35 Loving, Flirty & Deep Messages He’ll Never Forget
Long distance relationships are tough—but love doesn’t shrink with distance, it grows when nurtured. If you’ve ever stared at your phone wondering things to say to your long distance boyfriend to make him smile, or how to keep conversations exciting without the staleness, you’re not alone.
I’ve gathered some heartfelt, flirty, romantic, and deep things to say that will make your boyfriend feel loved and show him that you were thinking of him.
❤️ Why Words, Videos, & Pictures Matter More in a Long Distance Relationship
When you’re apart, words or media carry everything. Think of that feeling when you wake up, look at your phone and see a cute selfie from your boyfriend with a special “Good Morning” text. You know how it makes you feel inside that he is thinking about you.
If you are reading this article you know how much words or media can strengthen your emotional bond.
If you’re running out of ideas or feel like conversations are getting stale, don’t worry, I’m here to help. Here are some ideas that will make him feel seen and wanted.
Sweet Things to Say to Your Long Distance Boyfriend
Sometimes the simplest words can feel the most powerful.
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“I woke up thinking about you.”
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“Even from this far, you make my heart race.”
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“I miss the way your arms feel around me.”
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“Counting down the days until I can kiss you again.”
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“You’re the best part of my day, even if you’re not physically in it.”
Tip: Try sending one of these in a voice note or a surprise text during his workday—it makes it more personal.
Flirty Things to Say to Your Long Distance Boyfriend
Flirting keeps things playful—and reminds him you’re not just emotionally attached.
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“If I could teleport right now, your shirt would be the first thing to go.”
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“I keep replaying that last kiss in my head. Over and over.”
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“Guess what I’m not wearing right now? 😉”
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“You better get ready—I’m going to make up for every second apart.”
Tip: Use these as conversation starters to spice up your nightly chats or FaceTime calls. Remember you guys won’t always be a part. Eventually the distance will be closed and building that anticipation for each other is important.
Deep Things to Say to Reassure and Connect
Long distance often stirs doubts. Use your words to soothe them.
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“Even though I can’t see you, I feel you with me.”
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“Loving you has taught me what real commitment looks like.”
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“You and I—we’re not just surviving this distance, we’re growing stronger through it.”
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“No matter how far you are, you’re the one I want next to me for life.”
HOLD ON: What If You Feel Like You’re the Only One Putting in Effort?
Sometimes, the emotional labor of maintaining connection feels one-sided. If you’re always initiating texts or worrying about how he feels, it may be time to go deeper.
Many women struggle to get their boyfriend to open up or feel emotionally invested—especially in long distance relationship. That’s where a powerful relationship guide like His Secret Obsession can help.
This isn’t about tricks or mind games, it’s about understanding what emotionally motivates men. Thousands of women in long distance relationships have used this to bring intimacy and security back into their connection. The best thing you can do if you want things to work out long-
term is to understand your boyfriend even more than he knows himself.
5 Thoughtful Conversation Starters for Your Next Chat
Try one of these next time you chat:
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“What’s something this week that made you think of me?”
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“If we were together right now, what would we be doing?”
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“What’s your ideal ‘us’ vacation?”
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“What’s something you haven’t told me yet, but want to?”
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“What do you think we’ll laugh about when we’re old?”
Final Thoughts: It’s About Connection
Running out of things to say is okay. My long distance relationships have had there highs and lows. If I was busy and didn’t respond for long periods of time, she would often wonder what I was doing. Communication is even more important when dealing with distance. So any quick
text or joke can work.
A healthy long distance relationship, is going to take emotional awareness and communication to a whole new level. Don’t be afraid to repeat yourself, be cheesy, or go deep— it all works. That’s what love looks like, even over text.
And if you ever feel like your boyfriend is drifting or emotionally unavailable which is something I’ve been told numerous times, don’t panic—just consider learning what makes him feel like you’re the one. 👉 His Secret Obsession can show you how.
In my personal long distance relationship, this was above all, the most important thing. I knew she was loyal and “the one” and because of this assurance we didn’t have the typical jealousy or insecurity that most long distance relationships are filled with.
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